Nothing really spurred this discussion, I just felt it needed to be said. See, I was thinking this morning, on the drive to Genetics class through a lovely nine inches of Midwestern snow (Thanks, Lake Effect!), "Hey self, why is it that we encourage people who might be bigger than average, but berate people who aren't? Specifically... if "bitch" is a derogatory term used to describe women people do not like, then why are we using it to describe thinner women? What kind of sense does that make?"
Yeah, I know, I sound like an extremist feminist here, but hear me out on this. Since when did it become okay to shame thin women, but not fat women if both kinds of females are marginalized?
Let's look at it this way. Yes, it is true the media idolizes thin women with toned bodies. Yes it's true there's all this photoshopping that is done on photos in the media to avoid our favorite movie and TV stars looking "fat". Yes, this is bullshit, yes it happens to men too, and yes it's frustrating to see this shit still happening in 2014 of all years. But come on, people. If it's not okay to shame fat people, it's not okay to shame skinny people. That is body-shaming, and as I think I've pointed out before, I think body-shaming of any sort is gross. Like, really gross. Like, super mega gross.
Seriously, let's look at this from a logical standpoint. What exactly about someone being "skinny" is objectively bad, or worth labeling them a "bitch" over? What exactly is wrong with being built thin? What even do you mean saying someone is skinny? That they're built slender, built athletic, built emaciated? I'm skinny, sure - but so is Slenderman, and I think we both agree that those are two very, very different kinds of "skinny". Why is it bad to be naturally thin but not bad to be naturally built heftier? Because you perceive that person as a weakling? Because you think they're flaunting it? Wow... really says a lot about you if you think that, doesn't it? Skinny people simply existing should not make you insecure. You should be pleased enough with yourself to not fucking care if there are skinny people or fat people. And if someone makes fun of your weight or lack thereof, eat their face off like a shark. Faces are high in protein and you don't need that shit in your life anyway. But a person is not objectively bad just because they are skinny. And I dunno if you guys know this or not, but "thin privilege" is not an excuse. Does it exist? It's not my place to comment on it and I am not going to open up a can of worms. As I have stated the fuck before, several fucking times, just because someone has privilege does not mean they knowingly act on it to oppress you, or even are aware they have it. It also doesn't objectively make them a horrible human being, just a flawed one like everyone fucking else. Stop using thin privilege as an excuse to be shitty to skinny people. It's fucking nasty and yet another way of body-shaming people, which as we have already stated, is fucking super mega gross. Find another way to deal with your insecurity about yourself and your weight out, because attacking other fucking people for shit they cannot control is never the answer, and you damn well are smart enough to know it.
Not only is "skinny bitch" body-shaming, it's sexist as fuck. Like holy shit, is it sexist as fuck, to both men and women believe it or not. Why? Well gee, I dunno, it might have something to do with the fact that "bitch" is a derogatory term for women you don't like. So, when you call a woman in particular a "skinny bitch", you're marginalizing her and stuffing her into yet another stupid, biased stereotype role. What you're saying when you call a woman a "skinny bitch" is that her opinion does not matter. You're saying she should not have a say in how she describes her own body, or in what she thinks is right for that body. You are literally telling her that her choices, or hell, even shit she can't control, makes her automatically a bad person and worthy of being treated like crap. Sounds awful fucking familiar doesn't it? And hey, what are you saying exactly when you call a man a "skinny bitch"? Now not only are you portraying women as the "weaker sex", you're saying the man in question is not masculine. You are literally emasculating that male person, telling him he does not live up to the bullshit stereotypes society enforces on him, telling him his choices are bad or wrong somehow, and therefore reinforcing those same bullshit stereotypes of what masculinity is. Thin men are not weak, thin women are not bitches, and you are an asshole for insinuating someone is.
There is nothing wrong with being skinny, or a woman, or a skinny woman. Get that bullshit idea out of your head, stop using the term "skinny bitch", and start being more fucking accepting of other people's bodies. Lord knows we can all use a lot more of that in the world.